The difference between hard selling and networking

For many people the word "networking" has atheir own product or service. Real networkers
negative connotation. This is in part due to the fact thatrecommend products or services of people in their
many salesmen abuse networking to push theirnetwork (and only if they are relevant for the people
products or services. So let's take a deeper look intothey talk to).
the difference between (hard) selling and networkingFor hard sellers who network the goal is the sale.
to solve some of the misunderstandings aboutPeople are a means, a resource (sometimes even a
networking.necessary evil) to reach that goal. For real networkers
The main difference between selling and networking isthe goal is to establish and maintain contacts and build
that in a sales process the goal of the interactionrelationships. One of the possible consequences is a
between two people is the sale of a product orsale.
service. When networking, this sale could be theTo make it even more clear, I have a small example
consequence of a contact that is built with respectfor you.
and care. So it is clear that the sale is not the goal ofSituation: a salesman of fire extinguishers meets the
networking, but a nice and in many cases a logicalmanager of a local affiliate of a bank at a reception of
consequence.the Chamber of Commerce.
The comparison in the table (below) goes into theHard Selling
details of the difference between selling andThe salesman does his sales magic to convince the
networking. The table shows several elements ofmanager to buy fire extinguishers for his office. He is a
"negative networking" by hard sellers on the one handgood salesman and he manages to sell 5 fire
and "real networking" on the other hand.extinguishers.
Hard sellers who network are focused on the shortThe evening of the salesman is a success.
term while real networkers focus on the long term.Networking
Hard sellers who network try to detect a need thatThe salesman is interested in the manager as a
can be satisfied by their product or service. Realperson. Amongst other things he learns that the
networkers share any information that can bemanager is a passionate sailor and that he is looking
interesting for the other party.for a new boat. The salesman remembers that a
Hard sellers only give when they have an immediatefriend of his has a boat for sale. He not only passes
profit. Real networkers give without expectingthis on to the manager, but also provides them with
something back (and in the long run this usually payseach other's contact details the following day. A week
off better too).later the boat has a new owner.
Hard sellers who network listen in order to get theFour months later the salesman receives a phone call
deal. Real networkers listen to help.from the manager. The manager asks him to deliver
Hard sellers ask questions in order to be able tonew fire extinguishers for the office and for the
position their product or service better. Realfacilities of the sailing club where the manager recently
networkers ask questions to be able to be of betterbecame chairman. Moreover the manager proposes
assistance.to write a letter to all the members of the sailing club
Hard sellers find people interesting only if they are awith a recommendation for the fire extinguishers of
potential customer. Real networkers find everybodythe salesman.
interesting as a contact. You never know what orThe year of the salesman is a success.
who they know.What about you? Are you more of a hard seller than
Hard sellers who network want to collect and distributea networker? You don't have to be a salesperson to
as many business cards as possible. Real networkersbe a seller. Everybody has to sell continuously. You
ask and give business cards to people with whomhave to "sell" the next project to your management
they really established contact.team, you have to "sell" to your partner to go to the
Hard sellers talk often only about their product ormovies instead of spending an evening at home, you
service without listening to others. Real networkershave to "sell" to your children that they keep their room
See to it that others always talk more than they do,clean, … Everybody is a seller in one way or
listen carefully to them and encourage them to tellthe other.
more.Let me repeat my question. What about you? Are you
Hard sellers who network try to bring the attention tomore a hard seller or more a networker?